Ask the men. Tell the ladies.

Dear gals,

Stop feeling envious of me & Jason. Being together for almost 3.5 years doesn't necessarily means our relationship is perfect all time. There's many give & take and we haven't been perfect nor the match in heaven.

Sometimes I know I've been a lil' over demanding and difficult to please. I know Jason has been wayyy too patient with me and resulting a spoil brat which you people don't see.
Yet there are still somethings that I'm not totally happy with.

I asked him recently,"Who is the less thoughtful of us?"
And he said he is cos' there are times that I wasn't very happy and it must be something he did or didn't do. Understandably from that answer, he still don't really know what he did or didn't do but was in a way over doting me. And then you see that there's no improvement anyhow.
Technically there's just a question & answer.

I had wanted to agree that he is the less thoughtful one between us but I think that the very definition of 'thoughtful' is subjective.
Thoughtful to me means that the person cares to do lil' things in life that makes you happy,despite the value of those things. Even if it's like telling me in advance that he has got a match tonight and will call me later, IS thoughtful.
Thoughtful to him could have mean another thing altogether.

Ask the men, tell the ladies.

I don't ask for gifts every other day. I don't ask for flowers every other day.I don't need to be lavish with things all the time.
YET sometimes I felt silly that I ask if he could buy me something like a plushie,some (cheap)flowers or a keychain and he would smilingly agree. I know this may sounds cute to some but when I ask for it, sometimes the momentum is lost.

I know he did tried.Like sometimes he would give me some small toys from those 1 dollar capsule machines. BUT, but I just feel that you can't be doing this forever?I am honestly running outta space trying to keep them all and is starting to lose interest in Sitch and Pooh.
I appreciate that,all that.Really, I do.

How do I explain things to make things sound right?

I like impromptu.I like spontaneous.I like something outta nowhere and it's good.
I like small surprises. And I don't have to be asked all the time.

When I see how he always wanna buy things for his adorable cousins and want to spend time , I dunno what to say. It's not even the case that I do not adore them.I like them all but sometimes I really wanna tell him this, "They aren't your children, dear.Leave them to their parents.Can't you spend more attention on me instead?"

I know he wanted to treasure the moments while they are small and cute.Kids grow without your acknowledgement,like all of us.I totally agree with that but you don't have to go out and spend time thinking what to get for them,what they would like to have, what shows to bring them to watch and recounting the silly stuffs they did.

Maybe I sent the wrong signals sometimes.Some days I told him that it would be fine if we go out with his aunties and so, totally outta boredom and we have nothing much to do in excitement anymore.
I thought our 3.5 years is finally taking it's toll and it could be the end very soon.

It could be the girls want guys to want doing somethings and why would the gus want to want doing somethings?

He ain't much a romantic person and sometimes not even trying to be one.Either that or I outsmart him in that area.I know I am that hard to please and it is common to get tired.
Not to mention with the restricted $ we have,it's hard to do something new.

At the end of the day, it is infuriating. All I want is you to be as sweet and thoughtful as you are to the kids.Must I always act like a 5 year old to get that attention and reduced you to zero when I am not?

It could be at your usual weekend date, your beau brisk outta his bag and said,"Hey,I thought you might like this."That could be a book, a CD,a few colour pens etc.

It could be when he is shopping without you and MMS you a picture of some small stuff he bought together just for you.

It could be bringing you to some kopitiam or small cafes occasionally becos' he heard the food there is gr8 and want both of you to try it together. (Like I brought him to Icekimo,isn't that an example?)

And you don't have to keep trying the same old things cos' usually after the first time, the novelty wears off. At least that is for me.

It's about the efforts that both put in to keep generating passion and romance to keep a fish alive.

I can tell that we are rotting!

It's no wonder why girls eventually slip off to seek a new joy,a new fire,someone who can provide and someone who can understand, and guys slip in to the comfort of everything and blame the heart breaker.

Just what the hell is that all about?

Who cares about who more?I can hardly differeniate anymore.

Is it about ME or us?